by
Robert Farmilo
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OR: The Double Bind
(Damned If You Do...Damned If You Don't)
Let's dive right into this hot-topic...and I'll ask you a quick question: How about a nice, cool glass of hydronium hydroxide?
Would you drink it?
So, here's the scenario---you are blindfolded, and I put a nice glass of hyrdonium hydroxide in front of you, and tell you to drink it all...would you do it?
What if I told you that the potatoes had been cooked in a pot of boiling hydronium hydroxide? Would you eat those potatoes?
Here's the thing...go on and separately ask the next ten people that you meet, "What is hydronium hydroxide?"
The term is a type of label...it is a term used for something...a substance of some kind. And it gives a certain spin, doesn't it? And IF you didn't know what it really is...well, I don't think I will ruin the surprise...IF you haven't already figured it out. All you got to do is read through to the bottom of this article to get the final clue as to the true identity of...hydronium hydroxide.
And, hey! You know it...I am going to throw some links at you...so you can check out some cool insights into this double bind deal---and get some perspective that can help you shift out of the double bind dilemma:
Here is another link---and this one is totally awesome. I know you are going to really like the material that is covered in this link. It is really clear and straight-forward stuff. Read through it carefully:
==> http://kevinfitzmaurice.com/free-stuff/communication-skills/how-to-handle-double-bind-questions/
Obviously I am going to be making this article resource rich...a lot of the time, that's the way I like to roll with the articles that I write. And, hey...it does take time to go through these links and absorb the information. But it's really worth it because it will give you some deeper insights, and maybe some stuff you can put into action and experiment with to step out of the dance you are doing with the double bind silliness.
Alan Watts: The Double Bind
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I have mentioned in previous articles about the concept of SEMIOLOGY...and semiotics. My quick definition of this word is how your surroundings influence your behaviour. To take this a bit further---how buildings, landscaping, streets, roadways, malls, signs, billboards, paths, trails...houses...parks...vacant land...industrial areas, factories...slums...and then out of the urban and sub-urban context...into the rural context...even further, the wilderness...all of this tells you how you are to behave...what you can and cannot do...what is appropriate, allowed, permitted---and so on.
Now stay with me here...this IS important. There is a definite connection between semiotics and the double bind. You see, much of what we've created in our world...the towns, villages and cities that have been built---forces most of us into a sticky and horrible double bind situations.
One of the headlines that you can write that relates to the cross-over of semiotics into the arena of human relationships...is this:
I have mentioned in previous articles about the concept of SEMIOLOGY...and semiotics. My quick definition of this word is how your surroundings influence your behaviour. To take this a bit further---how buildings, landscaping, streets, roadways, malls, signs, billboards, paths, trails...houses...parks...vacant land...industrial areas, factories...slums...and then out of the urban and sub-urban context...into the rural context...even further, the wilderness...all of this tells you how you are to behave...what you can and cannot do...what is appropriate, allowed, permitted---and so on.
Now stay with me here...this IS important. There is a definite connection between semiotics and the double bind. You see, much of what we've created in our world...the towns, villages and cities that have been built---forces most of us into a sticky and horrible double bind situations.
"We Know Who We Are As Other People React to Us"
---Alan Watts
So...we are trained, informed, taught...about who we are by the way people react to what we do...or don't do.
For many of us, when we are caught in the rise and fall of our ego's incessant need to dominate our awareness...one of the express messages that we send out...to those we are engrossed with...in the form of intimate, love, pair-bonding, parenting, family...and so on...is this next statement:
"You MUST love me---it is YOUR duty to love me"
What's going on in our lives is the incessant training by our surroundings---(and that includes our social surroundings, like our immediate families, friends, co-workers, bosses, leaders, authority figures, peers...and so on)---that attempts over and over to get us to behave a certain way...a specific way...that meets their own right-wrong hierarchy; So "they" are ALWAYS trying to get us to be a certain way...because that's what makes them feel SAFE.
You are being a stupid fool if you think that you are immune to the social pressure that is attempting to force you into the perpetual double bind of obedience to various social norms. It is the survival force instinct at work---and that is a very powerful impulse to, what? Deal with? Handle? Negotiate? Compromise with? What?
Perhaps the best way to "deal" with these double bind hypnotic suggestions...is to simply step out of them...and to that, you need to know how you are sucked in to the double bind game that is being played on you---and often this is being done by various people without them really consciously knowing what the bleep they are doing...partly because they are the unconscious victims of an ongoing double bind indoctrination that they are or have been influenced by, through, with...and so on.
One example of this insidious presence of an ongoing double bind indoctrination is the process of being turned into a soldier. A perfect example within this niche is the following headline:
We (or "they") get you to do terrible, horrible deeds by threatening you with death if you don't do the deed. The essence of your behaviour is dictated by the built in obedience impulse you have inside you---that has been put there by the very strong implants delivered into your brain from the moment of your conception...until now.
The technique of double bind training is to create a state of confusion and bewilderment in you so that you really don't know what the bleep is going on---your feelings and emotions are so riled up and contradictory you don't know what is right or wrong. In this way, you can be pressured to comply to an order that you would never normally go along with because you can no longer understand what you really think and feel---except that you are bleeped up and in a confusion daze.
And so it goes.
This is your dilemma.
What to do?
You can begin the vibrant deconstruction of all the lies you are being told by yourself, and all the other selves...to get you to do something that you are not in agreement with doing. And this is done by seducing you...or bullying you...or cajoling you...or shaming you...or...whatever---to get you to do (or NOT to do) something.
And you can practice and develop a relationship with your own consciousness, and the source of your own consciousness. And this can be VERY surprising...when you begin to listen carefully to your own inner being.
This means you can develop a space between your reaction to prompts and cues delivered to you through double binds and deliberate indoctrination...and begin to disconnect your immediate compliance instinctual response...and step out of the dance...unless you really want to be dancing.
And it will become easier and easier to do this---without the shadow of guilt and weight of approval and or disapproval---the double bind of people pleasing...where you know that you must do something even though you don't want to do it...because if you don't do it...you are not a "good" person.
Now...what about that tall, cool glass of hydronium hydroxide? What does that do to you...when you read that...or hear that...phrase? Imagine drinking a glass of hydronium hydroxide---are you gagging yet?
Would you take a bath in a tub full of pure hydronium hydroxide?
Or let your kids have a hydronium hydroxide fight with squirt guns?
I'll tell you one simple fact...next to clean air, clean hydronium hydroxide is the most precious resource you can have...because it is water.
Yes, that's right...water.
Good old, ordinary...water.
All the Best!
Robert Farmilo,
Translator, TGCP
PS-Take a nice long sip on this book of pure knowledge, and begin the incredible inner journey of self-awareness from your own source of existence:
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You are being a stupid fool if you think that you are immune to the social pressure that is attempting to force you into the perpetual double bind of obedience to various social norms. It is the survival force instinct at work---and that is a very powerful impulse to, what? Deal with? Handle? Negotiate? Compromise with? What?
Perhaps the best way to "deal" with these double bind hypnotic suggestions...is to simply step out of them...and to that, you need to know how you are sucked in to the double bind game that is being played on you---and often this is being done by various people without them really consciously knowing what the bleep they are doing...partly because they are the unconscious victims of an ongoing double bind indoctrination that they are or have been influenced by, through, with...and so on.
Covert Secret Hypnosis Double Bind Technique Revealed by Steve G. Jones
"March OR Die"
And along with this idea is the implicit instruction: "Kill or be Killed."
We (or "they") get you to do terrible, horrible deeds by threatening you with death if you don't do the deed. The essence of your behaviour is dictated by the built in obedience impulse you have inside you---that has been put there by the very strong implants delivered into your brain from the moment of your conception...until now.
The technique of double bind training is to create a state of confusion and bewilderment in you so that you really don't know what the bleep is going on---your feelings and emotions are so riled up and contradictory you don't know what is right or wrong. In this way, you can be pressured to comply to an order that you would never normally go along with because you can no longer understand what you really think and feel---except that you are bleeped up and in a confusion daze.
This is your dilemma.
What to do?
You can begin the vibrant deconstruction of all the lies you are being told by yourself, and all the other selves...to get you to do something that you are not in agreement with doing. And this is done by seducing you...or bullying you...or cajoling you...or shaming you...or...whatever---to get you to do (or NOT to do) something.
And you can practice and develop a relationship with your own consciousness, and the source of your own consciousness. And this can be VERY surprising...when you begin to listen carefully to your own inner being.
This means you can develop a space between your reaction to prompts and cues delivered to you through double binds and deliberate indoctrination...and begin to disconnect your immediate compliance instinctual response...and step out of the dance...unless you really want to be dancing.
And it will become easier and easier to do this---without the shadow of guilt and weight of approval and or disapproval---the double bind of people pleasing...where you know that you must do something even though you don't want to do it...because if you don't do it...you are not a "good" person.
The headline for this state of being could be:
"What You Think of Me is None of My Business"
Would you take a bath in a tub full of pure hydronium hydroxide?
Or let your kids have a hydronium hydroxide fight with squirt guns?
I'll tell you one simple fact...next to clean air, clean hydronium hydroxide is the most precious resource you can have...because it is water.
Yes, that's right...water.
Good old, ordinary...water.
All the Best!
Robert Farmilo,
Translator, TGCP
PS-Take a nice long sip on this book of pure knowledge, and begin the incredible inner journey of self-awareness from your own source of existence:
==> Get the Book, NOW!
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